By Julia Gorham
Children grow and develop the way they do, largely as a result of what we say to them and the way we say it.
- A child’s mind is full of questions, especially questions of self definition or identity “Whom am I?”
- We base our lives as adults and make key questions on these very questions.
- A child will be influenced remarkably by statements with the words,
- “ You are … ” These statements go firmly into the child’s unconscious .
- “You” messages work at both the conscious and unconscious levels.
- Consciously, children hear the words, but unconsciously they hear, see/the feeling behind the words.
- Words said to children “I notice that you have not tidied up your toys, and this upsets me” {Positive}
- “You are a …… child, why don’t you ever do, what you are told?” {Negative}
Research has shown that everything – every sight , sound and spoken words will be stored in your children’s brains.
On the surface children’s cortex is their life recorded in its entirety.
