The Secret of Happy Children

By Julia Gorham

Children grow and develop the way they do, largely as a result of what we say to them and the way we say it.

  • A child’s mind is full of questions, especially questions of self definition or identity “Whom am I?”
  • We base our lives as adults and make key questions on these very questions.
  • A child will be influenced remarkably by statements with the words,
  • “ You are … ” These statements go firmly into the child’s unconscious .
  • “You” messages work at both the conscious and unconscious levels.
  • Consciously, children hear the words, but unconsciously they hear, see/the feeling behind the words.
  • Words said to children “I notice that you have not tidied up your toys, and this upsets me” {Positive}
  • “You are a …… child, why don’t you ever do, what you are told?” {Negative}


Research has shown that everything – every sight , sound and spoken words will be stored in your children’s brains.

On the surface children’s cortex is their life recorded in its entirety.

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